Still a rough draft, so bear with me, guys...

I worked for some years as a full-body deep-tissue masseur for men in Los Angeles.
All I can say is that a LOT of you bi-curious men on here could really benefit from one or two good, all-over massages and would find the experience eye-opening and very uplifting.
But it's daunting to look at a list of masseurs and know how to choose. Some are excellent, some are lousy or assholes or anything in between. So, here's some helpful info to help. I'll continue to refine it over the next weeks.
To pick one, you need to talk to the guy on the phone.. or at least be able to text with him enough to ask the right questions and get satisfactory answers.

––Using a bit of the right jargon will help you a lot to communicate on his wavelength.

A man is a massEUR, not an f'ing massEUSE. A massEUSE is a woman. Got it?

Don't bust the guy's ego by imagining him as some paid-for hooker when you talk to him, but as a thorough, professional 'body-worker' who will work hard and skillfully to help you experience "intimate and meaningful full-body touch".
This is how he sees himself. You see him that way, too.
HE will be in control of the session, not you. Believe me, it's better for you this way anyway. He is not your plaything, but he should be 'open' and willing to get in there and help you open up and breathe bigger, feel more and experience a bigger thrill –which might be an orgasm or different from what you expect. So stay open to what he wants to offer you. He has experience that you don't.)

Here's how to feel a potential masseur out, but do it gently and respectfully so you don't bust the guy's nuts and make him want to get rid of you before you can book him. He has already heard from all types of weirdos and pushy jerks (you can't even begin to imagine) You need this guy to trust that you're OK. You are being screened, too.

Ask if he has an actual massage table (if not, forget it.)
Ask if he is 'comfortable' if you are nude.
Ask if he is 'comfortable' working on you in the nude.
Ask if his massage is 'full-body' i.e. if he will touch you everywhere. (if not, abort this call)
Ask if you can use his shower before and after your massage.
Ask if you can also touch him 'respectfully' and without interrupting his wonderful massage. (i.e. no gropy grabbing OR commandeering his job)
Ask if he uses unscented.. or at most very faintly scented oil... (not some kind of lotion. Yuck.)
Ask if he offers more than an hour.. best is 1.5 hours.. (Well worth it! You don't do this every day and it really does take that long to truly relax and absorb all of what's happening)
Ask if he can work deep-tissue. (you don't want a guy with wussy hands who only offers you half-assed touch. It's easy to tell him to lighten up if he's too intense).
Ask if he has had Body Electric or other Tantric training.. (not a deal-breaker, but if he has Body Electric or other tantric training, you have hit the jackpot).

When you are on his table, DO give yourself full permission to moan and groan.. or to suggest deeper or lighter. No, not dramatics, but your feedback is really helpful and encouraging. Your masseur is present and listening intently to you. There is nothing worse than a dead body on the table that you can't tell if he's bored or white-knuckling the whole experience. So, do be natural, not rigid but instead open and not afraid to utter sounds if they want to come out. And you'll relax more with more experience. Just like with everything.

I think that if you set the right tone with these questions and put them to him respectfully, and if it sounds like the guy is comfortable with you, a good full-body masseur will have no trouble talking to you about orgasms.. and maybe even offer if he might be willing to join you. However, you should not expect this second part. If the man gives several massages per day.. he uh.. can't necessarily promise. And more importantly, massages are much less exciting to GIVE once you've spent your sexual energy, since that is what we are all about raising like electricity around both parties with this experience. So, do try to let this really be about YOU –with him there and fully present with you, but not focused on him. Regard anything more as a fine surprise and an extra honor.
Ok, let's talk. Ask me questions, make comments.. and good luck getting some of what you've needed for far too long.