I don't mind gentle play but mine are sendditive so no rough play for me.

I had experiences with other boys in high school. All the while I liked the girls too. Now I enjoy both again. Nothing wrong with that I'd say!

I would prefer a nice slide in whatever is used.

I have a silicone sleeve that looks like a mouth and one that looks like a pussy. Both feel very nice. Just use some KY or something similar. About as close to real as you can get.

I just bought a new prostate massager today. I'll have to let you know how it is.