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Why not have a quick wank before you meet up, then it will take time for you recharge your battery. Then you will be able to last longer with her. Or you could get her to wank you, get have a long play together before cumming a second time. If she likes cum then you will give her a load to have some pleasure with, eg cream pie, fingering her cum filled pussy. Massaging cum over her tits is another good one, and sucking it from them. My wife used to like all these. So why worry about only cumming once!!

You can teach yourself control by 'edging' when you masturbate. This is getting near to the brink and then slowing down your movements until you are 'hovering' on the brink. When you are able to linger in high arousal for 20 mins you can really get the feel for gauging how excited you are and easily control yoursefl.

A good method with this is to mentally put a number on each level of your arousal,..so, number 1 is erect and ready,..and number 10 is orgasm/ejaculation. Work your way thru all the numbers pausing at each level until you get to 9.5..... This will give you a good method of judging where you are when with your girl and be much easier to control.

The other thing that will help a lot is to do daily 'kegel' excercises,..this is the strengthening of the muscles that stop you from peeing when you feel that you need to go. every time you urinate, stop and start the flow using these muscles, say, 10 times, When you have got the idea of where these muscles are and how to work them yo will be able to work up to 120 a day done at all sorts of times such as sitting at the dinner table or using your computer! 'Kegel' excercises will have a BIG effect on everything to do with your penis, erection, ejaculation control and power of your orgasm. Eventually, you will be able to stop your ejaculation from happening just by clinching the muscles.

Finally seek out and read the books by Dr Barbara Keesling, who is an excellent writer and sexologist. Most of her books will help you considerably.