Uhm.... You stick your dick in his butt... It's not that confusing...

Although Spermkiss more often than not pisses me off, I have to give him kudos for his answer here.


Arexa, your simplistic retort is just plain wrong advice for a first timer. First of all, not all guys that are intimate with other guys, regardless of their 'base' orientation, want to or even consider anal penetration.


wankguy - your name is a clue here - guys can have fun with other guys and not threaten their base orientation. You guys could watch a porno and just jerk off together. Maybe if things get comfortable you guys might try mutual masturbation. There is always the 'reach-around', but this is usually after a level of comfort is attained. One guy sitting up and the other guy sits in front of him reclined against his chest. The first guy 'reaches around' and masturbates the second guy to climax.


Of course, there is also frottage. The guys lie face to face, either on their sides or one guy on his back, the other face down chest to chest and orgasm can be achieved by rubbing genitals together. And despite what some people here will say (It's not 'real' sex, bla bla bla) it can be very arousing and erotic...especially when you are tight in each others arms; chest to chest; dick to dick; face to face; looking in each others eyes as arousal increases, lost to everything except the moment together.


Of course, then there is oral sex...far less dangerous than anal, and then there is the visibility issue as well. Both guys are generally facing each other, so there is the increased visual stimulation. You can take turns, or flip over so you are both face to cock and do '69'.


Sometimes the level of arousal also can be affected by where the intimacy is taking place. If you guys have a place you can be where you know you aren't going to be interrupted or 'caught' (with negative consequences) you both can be more uninhibited and take the time to explore one another. I see you are in China; I don't know your situation, but sometimes there are societal and familial concerns to be aware of. You don't give your age, so I don't know if you are possibly still living at home with family.


I know wankguy, you say '...teach me how to have sex with him just like to a girl...', but the fact remains that guys are not the same as girls. Anal is a poor substitute for vaginal sex. Sure, some guys say it is 'better', 'tighter' and so on...and sure, you don't have to worry about pregnancy, but there are all kinds of other issues to deal with: Cleanliness; Health - the fact that you do not know each others sexual history; Risk of physical damage. More often this is a long-term future consequence, which is why guys here will ridicule that warning...but when they get into their 50's and 60's and waste leaks out into their skivvies beyond their control, they'll know why.


And let me mention the fact that you are both males - equals in anatomy and personality - why would you want to use a male as a proxy for a woman? Would you want him to do the same to you? Guys should value and respect their masculinity and make their intimacy together something that keeps that in mind. Make it unique; special. Not a 'make do' pussy substitute. Would you place yourself, ass in the air, as a substitute vagina for him? Somehow I don't think so...so do things that keep your gender identity intact.


You don't NEED to stick your dick in his sewer pipe to have a great time with your buddy.

Honesty is the best policy. Tell him straight out that you do not consider yourself to be full time gay but you're open to sex with another man if it's the right man and if the chemistry is there. Furthermore, he's the right man and the chemistry is there.

As for your concluding that he's gay because he asked you for sex, well maybe and maybe not. Maybe he's just another mostly straight guy who's willing to give man-on-man sex a try and he's attracted to you. Straight guys have sex with each other more than you think. It happens all the time.