No you are not in fantasy land. Like spermkiss I too am an out gay man and most of my threesomes have involved other guys. Once though, my partner and I invited a friend of his into our bed. She was known to my partner and we just wanted to try it out. It was nice. Although I prefer guys, it was nice to try something new out. She loved being fucked, and so do my husband and I. So we have three fuck lovers.

I have also been the regular third in a couple's bed. That was a wonderful few years. He was bi and she loved watching him and I suck and fuck. ALthough I concentrated on him, I did enjoy her presence as well.

Go get your guy and enjoy it. It adds a beautiful texture to your sex.

No, you're not off in fantasy land. While triad relationships are somewhat unusual, they do happen, many times successfully.

My own experience might be useful. I'm an out gay man, but when I was in my early thirties and had been out for more than a decade I had an affair with a woman. This lasted for nearly a year and in our circle of friends we were regarded as a couple. I never stopped thinking of myself as a gay man while it was happening and it was always an open relationship. As I was fond of saying "She's fucking other men and so am I."

In any event, she and I had numerous three way sexual encounters, all with another man. Mostly these men were straight (a couple might be called bi) and mostly they wanted her and were willing to take me as part of the deal. Indeed, many were eager as it was kind of an adventure. In every case, once the ball got rolling, so to speak, they were quite active with both of us.

So if a triad is something both you and your wife want, go for it and good luck.

not a fantasy, but an orgasmic reality....dated a chick several years ago that wanted to tryy that and it was the best sex i ever had.....wish i could be the lucky guy....not gay, but bi, so i could pleasure u both as much as u wanted

I think it is a great idea!!!

Your wife wouldn't prefer the third to be a bisexual guy?

Sounds fun