If I were you, I would keep it a total secret. After all this is an itch that you have and your own curiosity. If I were you I would secretly join an app like sniffles and post a pic and explain what type of guys you’re looking for and what you are looking for. Once you find a guy you’re interested in, get a hotel room somewhere and meet up with him and explore the experience you’re looking for. That’s what I would do. Then take it from there. Just remember it’s a really hot experience and it may leave you craving some dick. There is nothing like sucking on some cock and balls. Also you will quickly see that a guy can suck you’re cock like it’s never been sucked before

I wouldn't tell my wife. Unless your are positive that she would be into seeing you with another man, keep your desires to yourself.