I can only offer this bit for you. Fantsties are fantastic, because we can indulge anytime we like. Once a fantasy is full filled, it looses its excitement. (And who knows, you may hate cocksucking - how would that make you feeel?) My advice is to have heaps of kids and dont be distracted by some la la land dream. Enjoy ur wife, and wank off to all your fantasies when wver you have the desire. Cheers

First and foremost you need to know yourself and know exactly who you are. My advice is to do this, with or without your wife's knowledge. You need to know how it will affect you. Once you know that, then you could discuss it with her if you need to do so. Would you continue to want this once in awhile only? Would you realize that you are gay and need to be with a man rather than with a woman? Would you want to stay with her but also have a real relationship with a man? These are all possibilities and they all happen. Before becoming a father YOU NEED TO KNOW. I say this as a totally gay man who has met many, many men who have married, had kids, then realized they were gay. They've left their marriages. Some have good relationships with their kids, some don't. One of my closer friends has been going through this recently. I wish you the best of luck. The most important thing is to be true to yourself.

This is so commonplace that it is entirely normal. There are certainly hundreds, probably thousands of other straight SYD members who fit your description exactly. There are undoubtedly millions worldwide.

I'm as gay as they come and I cannot begin to count the number of straight men, many of whom were married, sometimes with children, with whom I had sex.

As fou4r has so wisely asked, however, does your wife know about this? This is not an unreasonable question. Many, perhaps most, women find man-on-man sex really exciting and would be egar for their husbands to try it out. Your wife might even want a "blow by blow" account. I know that as a gay man, being gay is a Major Babe Magnet. Sometimes I have to beat them off with a stick.

Is your wife aware of your fantasies? If she is and is fine with it, then go for it! It's awful to have repressed feelings. In no way should you go behind her back though. If she has no idea that you have such fantasies then you are not completely honest with her and there is no way that ever turns out well.