I do not wish to discuss the personality of this particular member I know nothing about, but I saw his blog
/blogs/26269.html and want to make an example.
i've been blacklisted on former accounts I had mainly by the same lovely lady who im very fond of... the only way I can find out why or try to resolve the problem is by re-registering under a new user name.
If you look at it without any prejudice this is basically a confession of being a stalker for the same person, being blacklisted by that person, and keep registering new accounts to keep molesting that person. And then he suggests there to make a blacklisting process more complicated, because he takes the ban too personally.
Am I the only one who sees how ridiculous this is?
If I tell you that some people are crazy and blacklist for no reason, I'm just being polite. Most of times you get blacklisted for a reason.
From what I've seen in Forums and such, the majority of "blacklisting" complaints are from folks with ponderings similar to mine where there IS no reasonable reason. Unless, of course, "oh, I was masturbating while looking at you then felt ashamed afterwards so I HAD to blacklist you." At the very least...TELL me that instead of just doing it.
Quite frankly, the "blacklisting" thing LOOKS bad to other people who may not have interacted with you before. It gives NO indication of the person DOING the blacklisting. THAT is why people complain when there is no viable reason. It should require a reason (that the person being blacklisted can see and require points...hell, I get points taken away for clicking on a video that doesn't say it requires points...even though I immediately click "back"). It's called "Common Courtesy", especially in such a sensitive area. Some of us are here to interact as the purpose of the site is supposedly designed and because we feel welcome where at one time we, may, have felt ostracized.
But that is moot as I was, merely, using it as an example to the issue at hand, which is blacklisting.
Adding additional elements you suggest will make browsing more inconvenient for most of other users who do not have this problem and that's why I will not add it.
I was just pointing out, here, how easy it is for people to blacklist for no real reason.
I also suggested, a while back, that there be a point fee charged to blacklist another member as well as a definitive amount of time that the "blacklist" will be imposed for. Some members blacklist others for really lame reasons and I suspect that if they were asked why they blacklisted so-and-so, they might have a difficult time remembering why.
I just checked the stats and can tell you that average count of blacklisted is 3.9 per member. That's counting only those who use blacklist (i.e. have at least 1 member blacklisted). Many don't use it at all.
Of the 20 members that I am currently blacklisted by, there are several that I have NEVER interacted with, several, I can only assume that due of sexual preferences, have blacklisted me, one that has blacklisted me for requesting that she edit her gallery and remove the internet pictures.
Doesn't it just make you want to shake your head from left to right while bringing a smile to your face? It is always such a special feeling when admin tosses barbs at his paying members! Go figure!
The only thing in life that doesn't cost something (at this time) is air/breathing. Unless of course, you are on a ventilator or oxygen.
If you click on your "happy face" rating on your or ANY page, it will provide you with stats for that given member. The stats reflect the number of friends, how many members have blacklisted that member, (WHY?) as well as how many members that member has blacklisted.
I clicked on you and it reflects that you have 7 members that have befriended you, 1 member that has blacklisted you and that you have blacklisted 0 members. What is interesting is that your (WHY?) reflects G, just G.
Since members can blacklist for frivolous reasons, it would be nice if admin made it MADATORY for the blacklisting member to provide a "reason" as well as making it MANDATORY to include their name.
If you have a premium membership you can see who blacklisted you,so that takes away the perks of that membership if you make it mandatory to include a name and reason...
You get reasons as it is and you get the names of who blacklisted you if you are premium...sometimes it's just easier to let go of the why/who blacklisted you...
If someone wants to blacklist me and call me a narcissistic wanker in their reason for doing so, that's their right to do so....I could've posted something they don't like and don't want to see what I post anymore...
People talk to whoever they want,if you don't like who they talk to and try to make them choose between you and someone that's just lame....if someone doesn't want to talk to me in real life,I learned to let it go,you gotta have people you work with you don't like ?and vice versa,do you absolutely have to know why they don't like you or do you let it go ?....If you can't handle criticism for what you do and don't like it,do you look at yourself or do look at them for the fault,some people just don't get along from the start of their introduction to each other.
If something is toxic to you, it's better to let it go...
There are many members that allow their photos to be viewed only by their friends which essentially blacklists the entire site. Is that OK?
My page, my photos, my decision, my business.
I must admit I was thinking along the lines of predefined.
Like
1, u to old
2, i don't like male
3, i don't like female
4, you have disgusting things on your genitalia
or something along those lines.
The 1's I have banned either had bugged me a million times about wanting to be my slave or they had terrible attitudes towards other members.
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